Wednesday, August 31, 2011

the fever

what is wrong with me? I have 2 little boys and have no business thinking about having another baby right now. Dash is almost 3 and Macks just turned 1. I DO NOT need a baby - i have 2 already. But Dash is getting so big - he started school, he is talking so much better and he is pretty much just an awesome kid. Mackey is a toddler and being his adventurous self and I cannot imagine not going through all those exciting first things again - the first smile, laugh, rolling over, crawling and walking. I like that they are close together. I don't want to start back with baby stuff after the boys are older. I don't want to be done with diapers only to start them again. I don't want to have to give all these baby toys away only to buy them again 3 years later and my house is way too small to store them for any length of time. I hate that the main reason I feel like I need to wait to start trying is because my pregnancy are high risk and I most definitely will end up on bed rest at some point. Mack still needs to me to be active and he hasn't yet figured out how to sit still to watch even 10 minutes of TV. It wasn't fair to Dash for me to be stuck in bed for months and then in the NICU when he was still so little. I have to wait - I know I do and I will but some days when I see newborn babies I can't help but want my own or when I go to Target and every single person is pregnant but me. or when I see my OB at the mall and she asks when I am having my next? I have stuff I want to do this year ... I am planning a trip to the UK to visit my little sister in the early spring and if I was pregnant it would mess everything up. Logically I know I have to wait - at least another year but some days I wish it would just happen and we would all be surprised and say it was meant to be. But unless I am the .01% that get pregnant with an IUD than I am just going to have to wait. In the meantime I will just live vicariously through my pregnant friends and enjoy drinking a beer after a stressful day.

Friday, August 26, 2011

what i hope to teach them

dash is starting preschool next week. up until now his education has been mainly something that we are responsible for but next week teachers and other students will start to shape him into the man he will be. i am hopeful that preschool and his early learning experiences will be positive and help him develop a life long love of learning. but there are some things that i want to teach this kids that they probably won't learn in school.

1. laugh. laugh loud and long. sometimes laugh when you feel like you are going to cry. humor can get you through some of the hardest things. I want them to be able to see the hilarity in some of the mundane everyday life things. life is funny.

2. good friends do not judge or try to change you. good friends will tell you that you look ridiculous wearing a fedora but won't care if you continue to wear it. good friends will spend hours just hanging out doing nothing at all. best friends are like family and some last forever. 

3. they won't win everything. sometimes you just fail. you won't make the baseball team, you don't get the promotion, you lose your job, your girlfriend dumps you right before the 7th grade dance. it can't always go your way and it might suck for a little bit but then it is done and there will be something bigger and better waiting for them. maybe they will suck at baseball and instead be really good at writing short stories or singing in glee club. (doubtful given their genes) who knows but i am going to give them the chance to find out what it is!

5. I have a fortune framed in my kitchen from a fortune cookie I opened 10 years ago as a sophomore in college. It says "Stay True to the Dreams of Your Youth". I want them to always live with their hearts ... be happy in their own shoes. I don't want them to make choices just to please me - I want them to be truly happy in every thing they do. I want them to think that if they want to be the freakin' president of the United States than they will be the President!

6. I want them to know that right now they are our entire world. they are so young and precious and innocent and they deserve to be loved like crazy. They deserve our attention and our hugs and our kisses and everytime I say "yes" to one more time when I really really really want to be saying "no". they are babies and pretty soon they won't be so if one more time down the slide or one more really long walk around the block or one more really yummy cookie puts a smile on their faces - where's the harm in that!

you're one ... a happy birthday post!

my little mackman,

you started out so small and for so long we were so worried about you. we had to record every singled mL you ate and at first it was so little that we had to measure it is cc's. But that was then and obviously you are making up for those first few months when you wanted nothing to do with food because you can eat. a lot.  I don't know of a baby that eats more than you and you are still so so skinny. You weigh 20lbs which is the 20th percentile and are 31 inches long which is the 80th percentile. You would be happy if I let you eat black beans for every single meal, and I probably would if only they weren't so messy!

You have been walking for a couple of months now and have kind of progressed to running. You are fast already. You have walked right out of the baby stage and into the toddler. You are a dare devil and are injury prone. I have never cleaned up so much blood in my life - every single day you cut something open. and sometimes I just happens when you are standing doing nothing ... i think you are just trying to make me have grey hair or something. You are so so happy - some days you don't cry at all, even if you have decided you are too big for a nap. You go about wandering around the house like you are on a mission, a mission to wander!

You have started dancing to music and it is pretty funny! You love the Hot Dog song from Mickey Mouse ... you get the biggest smile on your face and then start grooving! I don't think you really have a favorite toy ... you like to pick little things up and carry them around the house. You and your brother have started to play more together ... he still gets mad at you when you steal his toy but you don't ever seem to mind when he grabs it back from you.

Pretty soon you will be a full fledged toddler - telling me "no" and loving Elmo but I am going to try to enjoy these last few months of babyhood! I am going to enjoy the bedtime snuggles and your crazy kisses. I'm going to keep feeding you all the variety of foods you like because I am pretty sure once you turn 2 1/2 all you will want to eat will be chicken nuggets even though you have never eaten them in your's just going to happen! I'm going to cherish our slowest walks around the block ... a 1 year old and a 3 year old can make a 1/3 mile walk take over an hour but it does let me slow down and see all the beauty that does exist on our street. Dash is teaching you to take the time to smell the weeds and to eat mulch (just ignore that lesson)!

A year ago - it was so hard for me to picture you as a toddler. You were so miniature and fragile and now you are so rough and tumble and crazy! I am so excited to see you grow up and become your own little man!

Love- mama.